Mar. 2nd, 2009 07:23 pm[personal profile] kshandra
kshandra: long-haired woman silhouetted against a stormy sky (Bad)
My sister-in-law [livejournal.com profile] laurellady is dead.

Take all the time you need for that part to sink in - I know it's kind of abrupt, but that's pretty much how I found out about it. I was in the bedroom reading, with the intention of taking a nap, when [livejournal.com profile] gridlore came in to tell me about [livejournal.com profile] madelineusher's post.

I always wanted to be closer to her. We had a fair number of (what I thought were) significant things in common - both bigger girls, both poly, both chronically depressed - and the few times we did have the chance to talk, we always seemed to have such a rapport. And when I learned that she and [livejournal.com profile] isomeme were splitting up, and that her mental health was a factor in it, I had so much empathy for her, because my relationship with [livejournal.com profile] dafydd ended similarly. (I had - have - empathy for both of them, really, because I'm far enough away from it now that I know dafydd made the right decision, and that we're both healthier people as a result.) But I didn't know how to reach out to her...I guess nobody did, really.

[livejournal.com profile] madelineusher called me about an hour ago; Doug and I both got to talk to her, and she actually laughed while she was on the phone with him. We'll be worried about her for a while, but it sounds like she's got support where she is.

...I'm just gonna sit here and be weirded out for a while.

Date: 2009-03-03 03:30 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] butterfly-smile.livejournal.com
(((((hugs))))) for you both.

Date: 2009-03-03 03:32 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] kalmn.livejournal.com
weirded out seems like the thing to be.


Date: 2009-03-03 03:46 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] drewkitty.livejournal.com
Goddess bless.

Date: 2009-03-03 03:50 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] bkwrrm-tx.livejournal.com
ext_14676: (Sending good thoughts)
I'm so sorry.

Date: 2009-03-03 04:01 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] wordweaverlynn.livejournal.com
I am so sorry. My prayers are with you and her family.

Date: 2009-03-03 04:14 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] ororo.livejournal.com


Date: 2009-03-03 04:36 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] dizzdvl.livejournal.com
I'm sorry. *hugs*

Date: 2009-03-03 05:07 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] capplor.livejournal.com
Sounds like a not good. If you get my zen hugs then that is good, but I want to do more.

We've also lost family very sudden. Some closer than others, but all of them missed more for the opportunities that are gone than almost anything else.

Go, hug your penguin.

Date: 2009-03-03 05:15 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] browngirl.livejournal.com
Oh, my goodness. My condolences, my friend.

Date: 2009-03-03 06:34 am (UTC)From: [personal profile] mdlbear
mdlbear: (rose)

I'm so sorry to hear it.

Date: 2009-03-03 06:38 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] princesskiti22.livejournal.com
I totally get the whole weirded out thing, that's my first stage of grieving as well......

Date: 2009-03-03 07:40 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] medancer.livejournal.com

Date: 2009-03-03 07:50 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] docwebster.livejournal.com
I just commented on her post and what I said there applies to you.

Date: 2009-03-03 09:38 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] faithwallis.livejournal.com

I will be keeping y'all in my thoughts.

Date: 2009-03-03 11:59 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] fimbrethil.livejournal.com
Keeping you, Doug and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Date: 2009-03-03 12:06 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] janetmiles.livejournal.com
I am so sorry. May [livejournal.com profile] laurellady rest in peace, and may those who loved her and cared about her find comfort in memory.

Date: 2009-03-03 03:07 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] jilesa.livejournal.com
Oh honey, I'm so sorry. *hugs*

Date: 2009-03-03 04:43 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] blueashke.livejournal.com
*hugs* I'm sorry hon. You and yours are in my thoughts.

Date: 2009-03-03 05:09 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] hitchhiker.livejournal.com
i'm so sorry :( *hug*

my condolences to you, doug and the family.

Date: 2009-03-03 07:09 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] epi-lj.livejournal.com

Date: 2009-03-03 07:12 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] wcg.livejournal.com
My condolences to all who were close to her.

Date: 2009-03-03 08:20 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] teddywolf.livejournal.com
*big woolfhug*

Date: 2009-03-03 08:32 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] lysana.livejournal.com
Oh, dear. My condolences to you and [livejournal.com profile] gridlore. I've never known his daughter much at all, but I've sent condolences directly to [livejournal.com profile] isomeme.

Date: 2009-03-03 11:27 pm (UTC)From: [personal profile] gingicat
gingicat: drawing of me based on wedding photo (Default)
My condolences to all.

Date: 2009-03-04 05:13 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] spiritualmonkey.livejournal.com
Thinking positive thoughts in your direction.

Date: 2009-03-04 07:36 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] lexica510.livejournal.com
Much sympathy to all of you.

Date: 2009-03-14 11:40 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] baratron.livejournal.com
I'm sorry for your loss and your family's loss.

(Yes, I really am this behind on livejournal.)


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