kshandra: long-haired woman silhouetted against a stormy sky (Bad)
...'cause I'm gonna need it to tell you just how AWESOME life is right now. :-P

I am phenomenally broken today, exacerbated by the fact that it was too fething hot in the apartment to even think about sleeping until 0115 this morning; I've actually lost count of the number of times I've teared up and/or flat-out started crying. (Doctor's appointment is already booked. I've been non-compliant on all my meds, brain and body, since before Worldcon, and I already knew that I needed to get back on the horse. Will be discussing an embryonic workout plan, as well; if [personal profile] gridlore and I are going to London in 2014, I have three years to lose 200lbs, because I'd like to survive the trip there and back.)

I've got a W101 LAN party to look forward to tomorrow night...and then Paul's memorial service the next morning, so I'm not going to get to ride that high for as long as I would have liked.

I think I'm spending large portions of the rest of the weekend reblogging MLP macros on Tumblr.

I'm leaving comments enabled, but please don't try to engage me in discussion right now. The metaphorical silverware drawer is empty.

Date: 2011-09-29 10:24 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] miintikwa.livejournal.com
*lots and lots of understanding hugs*

Date: 2011-09-29 10:25 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] marchenland.livejournal.com
Oh, hon! *hugs*

Not to get into anything like fat-shaming, because MANY beautiful and fat people travel and do just fine, but if you feel like you want to lose weight for a trip, more power to you! (My ONLY issue with fat-acceptance is that sometimes, in some people's hands, it can get turned into a backlash against anyone who wants to lose weight for any reason, even if they want to lose a reasonable amount or have a reasonable cause...)

Anyway, on that note, ping me if you're interested in the eating plan and very easy workout thing the Wookie and I use. It's a cheap, really easy plan that doesn't involve starving yourself, is actually really filling and enjoyable, and very easy to try and discard if it's not for you (as in, nothing stupid you have to buy, other than normal food.) It's not vegetarian-friendly, though.

Date: 2011-09-29 11:36 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] marchenland.livejournal.com
*I* don't think of him as Wookie, either, but so many people do that I use it, ha ha. :)

Date: 2011-09-30 02:16 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] jennilee-rose.livejournal.com

Can I also get this diet info pretty please?

*hugs for koosh*

Date: 2011-10-22 06:05 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] marchenland.livejournal.com
Sorry to not respond for so long!

Ok, the diet in question is not vegetarian-friendly, and it is a little daunting at first. Try to do it for 1 month, and see how it goes; if you follow it closely and you don't drop 2.5-5 lbs per week, I'll be shocked. The first week will be tough, and you may be grouchy as you beat the sugar back, but you kind of have to push past it. There's a book for it, but you don't really need it; there's plenty of info online about it. The diet is called "Slow-Carb," and the book is called "The 4-Hour Body."

The basic premise is that for 6 days of the week, you don't take in ANY simple carbs - no wheat or other grains, no sugar, no milk which contains lactose, no fruit which contains fructose, and no root vegetables. One day a week, you have a reset day (some people call it a cheat day) on which you eat carbs and sugar. This has both a psychological and a physiological component. It's explained in the book if you are curious.

The most important component is beans. You eat beans at every meal. Here's a typical meal breakdown for on-diet days:

Breakfast:
Half a can of beans (refried or regular - pinto, black, white, etc. Avoid garbanzos.)
2 eggs, cooked any way. Microwave is fine, or cooked in a small amount of olive or macadamia nut oil.
A serving of vegetables. Any leafy green or non-root vegetables will do. Spinach, mushrooms, asparagus, yellow squash, etc.

Lunch/Dinner (eat at least 3, as many as 5 meals a day including breakfast):
Meat serving (can of tuna / chicken / burger with no bun)
Vegetable serving
Half a can of beans
(Examples: Fajitas without the rice and tortillas. Salad at Chipotle without the tortilla and rice. Thai or Indian curry with no rice. Steak and vegetables. Etc.)

You will get plenty of complex carbs from the vegetables, but no simple carbs.

Cream in coffee is fine, as cream has no lactose, but don't overdo it.

A little avocado or a small amount of nuts is okay, if you need a snack.

Generally, avoid anything white. White flour, oatmeal, rise, potatoes. Cauliflower is fine.

Don't count calories. Eat as much as you want, especially beans and vegetables. Eat your fill. Snack on beans or veggies, too.

Look for grass-fed beef and avoid processed meats - occasional sausage or bacon is fine, but not every day.

Drink 8 cups of water a day. This will seem insanely impossible at first. You get used to it.

During the week, when you crave something - and you will - write it down. On your first reset days, EAT THAT. If your first cheat day is nothing but brownies and donuts, so be it. Remember that you are never more than 6 days from ANY indulgence. It's not any different than only ever having pizza on "Pizza Night."

Experience the "oh my God, that was sooo good, wow I feel like crap," that goes along with carb overload. After a few cheat days, you'll start craving fruit and less insane things. Listen to your body on those days and enjoy yourself, but also pay attention to how you feel at the end of a cheat day. If you feel draggy and dim, it's because sugar while delicious is not really very much fun. (My BF is WAY more affected by sugar than I am, but I do feel it, too.)

Repeat.

(continued)

Date: 2011-10-22 06:05 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] marchenland.livejournal.com
(part 2)

Your body gets used to the beans pretty fast. I never really experienced any issues with eating beans. If you cook fresh beans, follow the soaking method to avoid flatulence, and do get some Beano, just in case. The advantage of the beans is that you digest them slowly, and they stabilize your blood sugar as they digest. You will have cravings, yes. Passing on the cookies at work can be tough. (I have no problem with processed stuff but homemade stuff undoes me.) But if you can get past week 1 or 2, you will find that the cravings are increasingly easy to ignore. If you give in, just start up again the next day. You will probably feel so crummy from the sugar, you will want to start back up again.

Don't cheat on a day when you have something important going on, like a lecture to give, or something.

If possible, weigh yourself every day - preferably first thing in the morning after going to the bathroom. Track it for the first month, just to see if you're making any inroads. Most women over 40 actually need 6 weeks to really see significant loss. Our systems are hanging onto fat for dear life.

If you're on your period one week, you won't notice much loss; don't bother to weigh or measure yourself. This diet takes off inches more than pounds; you replace fat on it.

You will gain 3-8 lbs every cheat day; you'll shed it over the week and, with luck, a little more. Don't let this discourage you.

Move your cheat foods, especially snacks, to an unused / unseen shelf, or finish them all off before you start.

DO NOT SKIP MEALS. You need at least 3, maybe 4 or 5, meals a day on this. Skipping a meal almost guarantees you will crave fast energy, and that means sugar / starch. By eating regularly, you will stave off any blood-sugar crash physiological cravings, and only have to deal with psychological cravings, which are MUCH easier to deal with.

If you find after 1 month that you want to stick with it, there's a very short exercise regimen that takes about 15 minutes, 3 days a week (adding up to about 4 hours a month) which is not mandatory but which definitely speeds up fat replacement. It involves ~20 situps, 20 planks, and 2 other similar exercises, plus you toss around a kettle bell. You also will want to start taking some specific vitamins, some of which help your body plus calcium, which can be lost on any high-protein diet.

I started in late January at about 220; I was 189 last Saturday. So I've lost close to 30 lbs in 9 months. (A very active athletic friend of mine who broke an ankle and gained some weight told me it took her a year to lose 15 pounds.) I only do the exercises sometimes. I also HATED beans when I started this. And I look GREAT. People I barely know can tell a difference. Women at work, especially, think I must be starving myself or something. I'm most definitely NOT starving. I'm eating more food than I was before.

Ask if you have any questions. I think I hit every important point, but there are times when you're all, "Hmmm, is coconut milk okay?" or something.

I guess the biggest point is, it's not a diet about beating yourself up. It's a lifestyle change that isn't terribly hard to stick with after 1 month. If you mess up one day, you haven't lost any ground. Oh, maybe a pound; who cares? You'll get it next week. Falling off the wagon is its own punishment, though - when you feel yourself slowing down due to sugar. Eating as much of the beans and veggies as you want will help you feel full and the slow digestion will keep you feeling that way.

Good luck! Let me know if you decide to try it.

Date: 2011-09-29 10:38 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] lexica510.livejournal.com
No advice and no suggestions from me, just much affection, respect, and very best wishes that you come to feel able to get back on track and heading in the direction you want to be going.

Oh, wait, one suggestion: please be kind and loving with yourself. In one of the archived Open Air podcasts, Cheri Huber talked about how this kind of thing is "the place that karma wants to get us into. I mean, it's the worst self-hating place there is, right? You know the answer, you know what to do — and you won't do it." So please ignore, disregard, squelch, mock mercilessly, etc. any voices of self-hate trying to use this as an excuse to lie to you and beat you up emotionally.

Not that it's any comfort at all, but did you know that the question of "Why oh why cannot I make myself do these things that I know are good for me?" goes back to before Plato (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Akrasia)?

Date: 2011-09-29 11:46 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] lexica510.livejournal.com
Yay, you. I offer any or all of a warm hug, a pat on the shoulder, or a loud "YOU ROCK, M'DEAR!"

I heartily recommend telling the voice of "you see, you're on your own, you can't count on anybody, nobody's going to step up, you have to do it on your own, and boy do we know what a joke that is" to FUCK OFF because IT LIES.

Um. Assuming your hateful inner voices are running the same monologues mine are, that is... (Sunday was for shit and the voices were very loud and very believable.)

Date: 2011-10-10 07:05 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] freyjaw.livejournal.com
And the voices are full of it. They lie like diplomats. They lie like politicians desperate for your vote.

Date: 2011-09-29 11:14 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] catnip13.livejournal.com
Hope to see you in Wizard City tomorrow night. :) K's hopelessly addicted.

Date: 2011-09-30 01:30 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] catnip13.livejournal.com
I've got a level 12 Theurgist and a level 17 Conjurer. I tried to make my Theurgist all gothy, but she keeps winding up with bright colored treasure clothes.
K's got ... oh heck if I know at this point. I think 4 or 5 characters, life, fire, death and ice ranging between 5 and 12. David's got a Diviner and a Pyromancer. Cayden's playing a Theurgist, I think level 18, but he's got a study group tomorrow night and so won't be playing.

Date: 2011-09-29 11:56 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] wickedladybear.livejournal.com
You get to ask for the support you need, yanno? And take the help you can use and politely discard all the rest.

Being strong is all well and good, but there is being strong to survive and pulling more than any one person should have to handle.

FWIW, I don't know if I could have pulled through all the stuff you have been through, (what you have shared here), as well as you have.

You *are* strong. It is not weak to need a hand or a non-demanding hug, or a little cheerleading, it is *normal, healthy and right.*

You rock, lady, and you deserve to hear that when you need it!

Date: 2011-09-30 12:49 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] beki.livejournal.com
*snugs*

Date: 2011-09-30 03:16 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] virtualvirtue.livejournal.com
*huggles*

Date: 2011-09-30 04:26 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] drewkitty.livejournal.com
http://www.thespoon.com/costco/

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*hugs*

Date: 2011-09-30 11:05 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] janetmiles.livejournal.com
Thinking of you; wishing you strength.

Date: 2011-09-30 04:53 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] geeklite.livejournal.com
<3

If there's anything I can do to help (either online or in person) please let me know - I'd be more than delighted to do so. Otherwise I shall just send you supportive {{{hugs}} down the 680 ;)

Date: 2011-09-30 07:49 pm (UTC)From: [identity profile] realmjit.livejournal.com
HUgs. :)

Date: 2011-10-01 03:32 am (UTC)From: [identity profile] hitchhiker.livejournal.com
*hug*

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