Mar. 2nd, 2009

kshandra: Animated text: Closing paragraph from the 01/08/11 Special Comment - icon made with http://wigflip.com/minifesto (Enter At Your Own Risk)
Reasons people may prefer pseudonyms or limited personal disclosure on the Internet:
  • Because it is a standard identity- and privacy-protection precaution

  • Because they have experienced online or offline stalking, harassment, political, or domestic violence

  • Because they wish to discuss sexual abuse, sexuality, domestic abuse, assault, politics, health, or mental illness, and do not wish some subset of family, friends, strangers, aquaintances, employers, or potential employers to know about it

  • Because they wish to keep their private lives, activities, and tastes separate from their professional lives or potential employers

  • Because they fear threats to their employment or the custody of their children

  • Because it's the custom among their Internet cohort

  • Because it's no one else's business

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Mar. 2nd, 2009 07:23 pm
kshandra: long-haired woman silhouetted against a stormy sky (Bad)
My sister-in-law [livejournal.com profile] laurellady is dead.

Take all the time you need for that part to sink in - I know it's kind of abrupt, but that's pretty much how I found out about it. I was in the bedroom reading, with the intention of taking a nap, when [livejournal.com profile] gridlore came in to tell me about [livejournal.com profile] madelineusher's post.

I always wanted to be closer to her. We had a fair number of (what I thought were) significant things in common - both bigger girls, both poly, both chronically depressed - and the few times we did have the chance to talk, we always seemed to have such a rapport. And when I learned that she and [livejournal.com profile] isomeme were splitting up, and that her mental health was a factor in it, I had so much empathy for her, because my relationship with [livejournal.com profile] dafydd ended similarly. (I had - have - empathy for both of them, really, because I'm far enough away from it now that I know dafydd made the right decision, and that we're both healthier people as a result.) But I didn't know how to reach out to her...I guess nobody did, really.

[livejournal.com profile] madelineusher called me about an hour ago; Doug and I both got to talk to her, and she actually laughed while she was on the phone with him. We'll be worried about her for a while, but it sounds like she's got support where she is.

...I'm just gonna sit here and be weirded out for a while.

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