kshandra: The Sacred Chao from the Principia Discordia, in gold, superimposed on a Bisexual Pride flag (Bi Chao)
  • If you're not ready to come out today, THAT'S OKAY. At your own pace, in your own time.
  • If you're not ready to come out to EVERYONE, but want to test the waters with someone who won't judge you, my inbox is open.
  • If you *can't* come out for whatever reason, THAT'S OKAY TOO. Here's hoping that everyone who wants to can eventually do so safely.
  • If you know someone else is LGBTQIA, IT IS NEVER OKAY TO OUT THEM WITHOUT PERMISSION. Not today, not ever.
kshandra: The Sacred Chao from the Principia Discordia, in gold, superimposed on a Bisexual Pride flag (Bi Chao)
Depending upon how you define "preteen," I could have hit 12 and 13 with the same tune, but I opted to go a different route.

kshandra: pixie with purple wings aloft before a full moon (Good)
Home from [personal profile] gridlore's mother's home, where we had dinner with his now-sister C, her wife L, and [tumblr.com profile] senshi76. I brought grape jelly meatballs for an appetizer, which everyone LOVED, and "Grape jelly?!" became an instant family meme.

C's toast at the beginning of the meal was perfect: "Here's to being the only family in the country tonight that doesn't have to worry about politics coming up over dinner!" As it happened, the only politics we talked about were the politics of Westeros (C&L are both waiting for the series to end before reading the books; Doug and I have read all of the books, but have only seen about half of the first season; my MIL is current on both).

Senshi and I had a fabulous conversation about various aspects of gender on the ride home (in addition to having a trans* parent, they are becoming more public about identifying as non-binary). Doug got the comment of the night, though, by noting "I'm not cisgender, I'm cislunar. I present as male and I'm about 240,000 miles out of it."

I have one more bag of meatballs to add to the sauce and toss back in the slow-cooker to take to work tomorrow. (Yes, I have to go back to work tomorrow. As I noted earlier in the month, babies don't stop pooping.) And we've got some tentative plans for Small Business Saturday. For now, though, I think it's time to queue up "Alice's Restaurant" (because I haven't been to Church yet this year!) and relax for the rest of the evening.
kshandra: Six hearts in rainbow colors, linked in a star pattern around an infinity symbol (Polyamory)
[personal profile] digitalsidhe posted earlier this evening about attending the memorial for Jack Random yesterday, and it appears to have stirred up a lot of emotions in me. Not because I knew Jack - indeed, I'm not sure I'd ever heard his name before my queer friends started posting about his passing.

And that's what did it. I'm upset about my complete inactivity in "freak" circles. Queer, kinky, poly...you name it, I'm a cipher in it. And it isn't about the sex (mostly, anyway, though I'd be lying if I said that part didn't bother me, too) - it's about the connection. The community (and half of my Burner friends are shouting "DRINK!" now). Yes, I have my Invisible Internet Friends, and I love you all, but I don't have anyone who will call me up and say "Hey, wanna go to $EVENT next week/month/whenever?"

I know, I know. If I did, 90% of the time the answer would would be "Sorry, can't afford it." But I'd like the opportunity to be disappointed that I won't get to do something, as opposed to being disappointed that I didn't even know the something existed until someone Tweets about it from the audience (which happened over the weekend).

And no, the answer isn't "So go do something on your own!" Especially not right now, when the introversion is spiraling into tighter and tighter circles.

All comments screened, and I make no guarantees that I'll be able to answer them in a timely fashion, if at all. Also, virtual hugs are going to rub me the wrong way - a symptom of the problem, if you will - so please, don't.
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KO knocks it out of the park once again on the topic of marriage equality. (Now if we could just get him to call it marriage equality.)

Back here, because Current's videos are set to autoplay, and I can't figure out how to shut it off. )
kshandra: The Burning Man effigy, lit in blue neon, arms by his sides; an orange half-moon is visible over his shoulder. (WeeMee)
Why? Because the director of IT at http://www.weeworld.com/ is a narrow-minded bigot:

transgender - ffs what a lot of nonsense - freaks!

EDIT: The offending tweet has been removed, and the following update has appeared:

oh dear, that'll teach me for leaving phone on table in pub! Apologies.. What is fraped on twitter called?

Still debating whether or not I actually buy that explanation.

Spirit Day

Oct. 2nd, 2010 07:48 pm
kshandra: The Sacred Chao from the Principia Discordia, in gold, superimposed on a Bisexual Pride flag (Bi Chao)
Originally posted by [livejournal.com profile] neo_prodigy at Spirit Day
 


It’s been decided. On October 20th, 2010, we will wear purple in honor of the 6 gay boys who committed suicide in recent weeks/months due to homophobic abuse in their homes and at their schools. Purple represents Spirit on the LGBTQ flag and that’s exactly what we’d like all of you to have with you: spirit. Please know that times will get better and that you will meet people who will love you and respect you for who you are, no matter your sexuality. Please wear purple on October 20th. Tell your friends, family, co-workers, neighbors and schools.

RIP Tyler Clementi, Seth Walsh (top)
RIP Justin Aaberg, Raymond Chase (middle)
RIP Asher Brown, Billy Lucas (bottom)

REBLOG to spread a message of love, unity and peace.




There has been some discussion in the blogosphere about the original graphic being used for this post, noting that the photos of the deceased were almost certainly used without permission. I've spent some time this morning creating the graphic you now see above; feel free to use it in your own posts.
kshandra: The Sacred Chao from the Principia Discordia, in gold, superimposed on a Bisexual Pride flag (Bi Chao)
...because I can't find the words....

just because I didn't kill myself, doesn't mean I didn't feel like I was dying

(I'm also unlocking this post, with thanks to [livejournal.com profile] the_ogre for the inspiration to do so.)
kshandra: Jack Harkness aims his pistol at something off-camera. Text: "TASTE MY BISEXUAL FURY" (Bisexual Fury)
HomoSearch

(EDIT: For those of you just joining us, the beginning of the #amazonfail saga is summarized here.

EDIT 2, Electric Boogaloo: Amazon's PR department can be reached at 206-266-7180.)
kshandra: a stack of hardback books, spines facing away (Books)


A list of affected titles is being kept here; a link round-up is here; and a petition is up here (and despite my personal feelings re: online petitions, I will be signing).

Please, forward, Tweet with the #amazonfail hashtag - get the word out early and often. This is unacceptable.

(crossposted to [livejournal.com profile] bipolypagangeek)

Yeah...

Nov. 24th, 2008 10:31 am
kshandra: The Sacred Chao from the Principia Discordia, in gold, superimposed on a Bisexual Pride flag (Bi Chao)
...that's probably about right.

kshandra: close-up of a statue of Abraham Lincoln, holding a picket sign reading "We All Deserve The Freedom to Marry" (LincolnMarry)
...and modified by [livejournal.com profile] joedecker into a version that works for me:

Copy this sentence into your livejournal if you're in a heterosexual non-same-sex marriage, and you don't want it "protected" by the bigots who think that gay marriage hurts it somehow.
kshandra: close-up of a statue of Abraham Lincoln, holding a picket sign reading "We All Deserve The Freedom to Marry" (LincolnMarry)
A "No" vote on CA Proposition 8 will annul no marriages.

A "Yes" vote on CA Proposition 8 will annul over 10,000 marriages, many with children.

Which vote is REALLY "protecting marriage"?

Remember, there is no "electoral college" for referendums. YOUR VOTE COUNTS.

(And an update from yesterday: [livejournal.com profile] nottheenemyfeed is now available for your viewing pleasure.)

Edit, 12:33pm: Thanks to [livejournal.com profile] johno for tracking down the study from which that 10K figure was pulled.
kshandra: close-up of a statue of Abraham Lincoln, holding a picket sign reading "We All Deserve The Freedom to Marry" (LincolnMarry)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Coming_Out_Day

[livejournal.com profile] betnoir reposted something she originally wrote in 2004; I wish I had half her eloquence on the subject.

I meant to bring my "I ♥ >1" button to pin on my cube wall today (because it’s as important to me to be out as polyamorous as it is to be out as bisexual), or the bi-pride flag magnet that currently lives on my fridge, or SOMEthing to recognize the day, but I was so tired when I got up this morning that I forgot. In view of Bet's words above, it's rather embarrassing to me that I have the luxury of forgetting.

So I started an email to my co-workers - just the rest of my department - quoting Bet's post...and then sat there, poised over the "Send" button, wondering if it was the right thing. I've been out in the workplace before – in fact, I promised myself after I left SuperShuttle that I would never knowingly take a job where I couldn't be out. But it's always been an organic process for me...talking about where I went for the weekend (as an example) and ultimately having to explain that yes, I went with my husband and my boyfriend (or my boyfriend and my girlfriend); yes, they both knew about it; and yes, everyone was cool. I've never just stood up and said "Hi, I'm Kirsten and I kiss girls" before.

But ultimately, I did hit Send...and the girl who sits across the aisle from me came over and said "This may be totally inappropriate for the workplace, but I wanted to give you a hug." She called me the bravest person she knows - Brandon Teena was braver. Gwen Araujo was braver. Del Martin. Armistead Maupin. Freddie Mercury. George Takei.

I'm a piker. But I cannot, and will not, sit idly by when people I love are putting their lives on the line.

GIP

Sep. 24th, 2007 02:14 pm
kshandra: Jack Harkness aims his pistol at something off-camera. Text: "TASTE MY BISEXUAL FURY" (Bisexual Fury)
We love Captain Jack...and he loves all of us.

Biblically. ;-) Yeah, I know, we wish.

From this post in [livejournal.com profile] ihasatardis
kshandra: The Burning Man effigy, lit in blue neon, arms by his sides; an orange half-moon is visible over his shoulder. (Pride)
We're the man now, dog! (Borderline NSFW; sound present, but not required for enjoyment.)

Link courtesy of [livejournal.com profile] sylvan, who apparently fell out of his chair when he found it.
kshandra: close-up of a statue of Abraham Lincoln, holding a picket sign reading "We All Deserve The Freedom to Marry" (LincolnMarry)
The love that dare not speak its name
Dare not speak its name....


Let me tell you how the future lies
Boys and girls gonna get a rise
Let me give you some good advice
Sex and freedom ain't just a vice
Chorus
Coming out - the girls are on their way
Coming out - the wild ones are here to stay
Have you heard the news today
Femmes are out and we're on our way
Get on the E ride and take a bow
Hang on precious, we're going now
Hang on sister
I'll show you how

Out of darkness into the light
We'll go, we'll show, we know
The time is right tonight

Chorus



Happy National Coming Out Day, y'all.

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